Stop Working Against Resistance
What would happen if we work WITH resistance instead of against it? If we use resistance as an invitation into curiosity instead of treating it as something to fix or overcome because it’s wrong or bad, it becomes an access point to creation instead of the prevention of evolution.
We tend to walk through Life, especially in the “Healing” and “Medicine” Communities, being told that resistance is something that we need to fix, like an obstacle of some sort. It very easily becomes this indication that you have more work to do or the work that you have already done is not enough. At least, that’s the feeling I had about it so far on my Journey. Somehow the amount of resistance I experienced determined how “awakened” or “healed” I was. Or, in non-fluffy terms, how worthy and good and deserving of Love I was.
A thought came to me this morning, though, as I was reading a book and a new process and path came to me for a client I am working with. What if resistance, instead of being something we are to overcome and eradicate, is actually something we are meant to embrace and explore? What if this exploration is what leads us to creation and expansion?
This particular client has told me story after story of how nothing has ever really “worked” for him. He would get to the precipice, knowing this next step would change his Life and open the path to his Dream Life, and then stop. Hell, oftentimes he wouldn’t just stop, but he would turn around and go back! Back to drugs, alcohol, sex…all the things that allow him to be comfortable in his discomfort.
Now, this client knew exactly what he wanted to change, what steps to take to embody that change and he even knew why he wasn’t making these changes in any long lasting way. This client experiences symptoms of ADHD and Bi-Polar Syndrome as well. He spoke of this all, though, as if it was a script he had been telling himself, or maybe even given to him. This was his resistance and he couldn’t figure out how to overcome it and just make the changes.
I sat with this for a while, trying to strategize a plan of attack to break through this resistance. It literally felt like a battle I was going into and I needed to figure out how to overcome the resistance and win! Does this sound familiar? Star Wars? Any number of governments all of the world in any era you can think of?
This did not feel good in my Body, Mind or Soul. I didn’t get to where I am, who I am, by control, overpowering and eradicating anything. Quite the opposite. My path to living this profoundly and potently Beautiful Life came from exploring, embracing, embodying and expressing who I am. ALL of who I am. So why not work that way with resistance?
What happens when I embrace the resistance in my client? I get curious. I ask questions. I want to know more! As I reflect on our conversations and get answers to the questions I was asking, a whole new process comes to my mind. Something I had never heard of before but would fit everything this client needs to make real lasting change. Creation!
I approached resistance the same I have learned how with everything else I have alchemized and the same thing happened. Expansion. Love. Beauty. Healing. That there IS a path for them and they CAN have EVERYTHING they desire. And being able to express to another human that they are perfect exactly the way they are. So perfect, in fact, that they supported me in the creation of something that could potentially help a lot of people that feel like there is no hope.
Stop fighting against resistance. I double dog dare you! And let me know what happens!
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